I think what women want and value in men is very individualistic. Besides my wife and daughters, I have had the opportunity to make some observations over a lifetime and generalizations. Again, these are generalizations and so they never apply to "all women" but rather a large number within the group described.
The more independent a woman is, the more she values someone that can handle her independence. That person has to be good at conflict resolution, if the woman wants a man who is also independent, because they will often disagree.
If a woman is successful and an "alpha" female, who want to have her own way. Then she will need a man, who submits to her authority trusting her to make the right decisions for the family.
Some women are co-dependent and will want a man who is equally so. She will want someone that is prepared to be there all the time and will not be happy with someone who wants to hang with his guy friends and is perfectly happy when she hangs with her lady friends.
Some women are insecure and need a man to constantly stroke their egos. Men can be the same way. When they ask a question, they are looking for affirmation, not an honest response.
Some women are attracted to looks, some brains, some personality, some sense of humor, some blue eyes, the list goes on.
And yes, there are women that want to be "taken care of" by a successful man and will tolerate his flaws in order to enjoy the lifestyle his success brings. The world is such a diverse place, I do think what feminism has achieved is expanding the choices of women (and that is a good thing), but all of the "old life choices" still exist.
Finally, you express some thoughts that are simply out of line with your narrative. Economic success whether the product of man's or woman's talents can sometimes be the product of exploitation, but far more often is the function of creativity.
Taylor Swift is rapidly accumulating a massive amount of wealth, but no one forced my daughter to spend her hard-earned money attending a Swift concert and she continues to relish the experience long after it is over. People work in order to consume (some work because they love what they do so much, they would work for free... but that is the exception). There is nothing wrong or exploitive in providing hard working people choices of things to buy and if one person can produce enough of something that people want, that person will get rich.
The founders of Google are serious billionaires, Google overpays their employees to attract the most talented (I know a bunch of people that work there) and gives away their product to "consumers" for free by selling advertising that no one forces businesses to buy. So, who is being exploited?
Similarly, for whatever reason you might want to attribute to their behavior, the wealthy on average are far more generous with their wealth than the poor. Does that make the poor greedy? Of course not, the poor need their wealth for basic needs and so cannot afford to be generous, but likewise, the fact that the wealthy are far more generous yet still fabulously wealthy does not make saints or evil, just human.
My wife and I feel like we have won. We both worked hard raising five children. I climbed the corporate ladder and became the CEO of a large company, when our children no longer needed her as much, she started her own business which has become enormously successful. Being older, I am retired, and I do not find it demeaning driving around town to buy the groceries, drop off the mail, and do the stuff she did when I was running a large company. After 36 years together, the secret of happiness comes from two people with shared values and goals and a little luck enjoying the journey of life together. I have met some people who prefer flying through life solo and if that works... great.
As I started off saying, everyone is different. My one piece of advice to everyone is know who you are and what truly makes you happy before you hitch your wagon to someone else's or decide to go alone. If you don't know what makes you happy, then any decisions you make are unlikely to produce happiness unless by accident. And if you choose to spend your life with someone else, be very selfish that decision...
If you focus on what makes you happy and whether that other person will contribute to that goal and the other person does likewise, then what comes after is likely to work for the two of you.
Too often people focus on making the other person happy and when they tire of doing so, they realize that they are not happy. To be clear, I am not saying live life selfishly, I am saying chose your "mate" selfishly and if you both do that, you are likely to find you are still happy with that choice (as I am)... 36 years later.
How did my wife and I figure this out... we both made big mistakes the first time we chose someone, and those mistakes ended in divorce. I know I thought the people naturally grow closer, but it is not true as the divorce rate proves. Last advice when choosing someone to spend your life with... imagine what the two of you will be doing when your 65... what about that person makes you want to spend the "end of your life" with them. Those things tend to endure far more than the superficial things of the present.
As a final comment regarding young people today. I have observed some very negative trends among young people... not all of them, but many of them. To many young people do not spend enough time "socializing", perhaps this will make them better equipped to live life along, but I think humans are social animals and many will eventually discover, the solo path is not for them... but they never learned how to engage with others.
