I think how you see the world is a choice.

At a young age growing up in the 60s, I was a victim of racism. Walking home from school during the time of the riots in New Jersey, a group of mostly older teenagers attacked me and beat the crap out of me, because of the color of my skin. It would have been easy at that moment to see "blacks" as the enemy.

But I was lucky. I had black friends, I worked beside blacks at my father's business, and eventually I bonded with many blacks as teammates. My teammates were all the same color... we were all Blue Devils. My experience made me careful, knowing others did not see the world as I did.

The really weird thing is several years later, the riots behind us and sports a big part of my life, two of the youngest kids in the group (my age) that attacked me became my teammates and eventually we became friends. We were friends for almost a year, when one of them said sorry about when we beat you up, but it was the "older kid's idea". Racism is learned and so it can be unlearned.

I was also blessed my mother grew up in Nazi Germany and she hated racism. She was Protestant and friend was the daughter of her father's Jewish business partner. Her family did what they could eventually helping most of the family escape, not all escaped. We understood how ugly racism can be.

However, you made an interesting statement, that happens to be untrue.

Blacks were not chosen as slaves because of their skin color, they were chosen because so many were available due to African kingdoms using slavery as a currency to fund their empires. Prior to that time, slaves came from captured Native Americans, India, and in Dutch colonies from Indonesia.

At the same time, millions of white slaves were seized from southern Europe, the Balkans, and Russia and sold into slavery in North African, the Middle East, Central Asia, and other parts of the world. All races at the time were slave owners, slavers, and slaves depending on where in the world you are looking.

Knowing slavery was practiced everywhere, and every race was involved in slavery as slavers, slaveowners, and slaves, highlights the "tribalistic" aspect of human behavior. Free blacks in America were not subject to being slaves and actually a "free black" was more likely to own a slave than a white person. So, it seems like your conclusions are grounded in a false narrative regarding what was going on when slavery was going in the South (it never was legal in many northern states).

Regarding whom I am, I am the grandfather of five black grandchildren, who I want to experience the best life can offer and that begins by not segregating oneself from one's family, community or nation. America is a giant melting pot, and we are headed towards becoming a unique ethnicity within the broader identity group we call Hispanic.

What distinguishes Hispanics as an identity group is their identity is based on culture, not color. Here in California that are the largest identity group and someday the vast majority of Americans will be "Hispanic" including likely most of my descendants... they will have a unique identity shaped by "American" not "European" culture and skin color influenced by their European, African, and Asian ancestors.

https://www.statista.com/statistics/306026/california-population-ethnicity-race/

As time moves forward, white groups that isolate themselves in largely white communities like the Amish, black groups who intentionally segregate themselves in inner city black neighborhoods, etc. will simply become marginalized.

I am not hoping black people accept "their lot in life", I want my grandchildren striving to be President, head major corporations, become doctors and lawyers, but that starts with becoming one by joining society and not segregating oneself.