As someone who married a "minority" woman (going on more than 30 years now) and and immigrant to this country the second time around and a white woman (married for 13 years) the first time around, I can provide a perspective. As an aside, my son from the first marriage is married to an African woman from Zimbabwe.

The perspective is this... character matters more than skin color. The more you know someone and love someone, the more physical appearance becomes secondary to character. Physical appearance encompasses everything from skin color, to weight, to height, etc. Those things simply seem to matter less when you find your soulmate.

Things that do matter, are things like shared goals regarding family, faith, and the future.

While many people seem obsessed with skin color these days, for smarter people who have lived awhile, it simply isn't important. Now a comment likely to ignite some reaction. My son married an African woman, but not an African American woman.

I believe that it helped their relationship because she did not inherit the "baggage" so prevalent in our "race" focused society. They could see each other as people not black and white. That is reflected in their children, who see one another not as "African American" but bi-racial. The distinction says a lot.

It almost seems that when someone self identifies as "African American" or white, rather than biracial or American, they have drawn a line in the sand that is hard to cross. How we define ourselves, says a lot about who we want to be with. I am an American.